There is this campaign launched 2 months ago on a social media (Facebook) in Lebanon;
The campaign encourages the young men to get married and be polygamous.
I joined the campaign to know better what are the arguments that are being discussed and posted by the campaign members.
Today I saw that a Lebanese girl posted a chart , telling wifes what to do to know if they are good at being a wife .
A Good wife according to the chart, is the one who leaves everything to greet her husband when he comes back home. The terms used shocked me: you have to be there for him after his long “tiring” day at work. Does this mean that a women ( a house wife) is not tired?
She should greet him with a “big smile” as per the chart says;
the chart stipulates too : if you don’t do that you are not a good wife.
or as the women, who posted it, comments : “but I displayed this for the married women in this group to be aware of the small reasons but deeply important for divorce or hatred .”
oh! I am shocked again!
Moreover, the second disposition indicates: “if your husband doesn’t eat what you home cooked, or get delivery food, or from a restaurant, and he cleans his clothes at the laundry, this means that you are not a good wife”.
“if your husband get furious and you answer him, and you defend yourself, this means you are not a good wife”;
“if you sit with your husband at home and you smell bad, and you are not clean and your clothes are not clean and nice, this means that you are not a good wife”
“if you tell your mother and sister the secrets of the house, it means you are not a good wife”
Gender roles are clearly determined, and discriminatory against women, limiting their role to housewives, mothers, ….
This chart was published in “the national campaign encouraging men to be polygamous”, but I am sure that even in christian communities in Lebanon a girl is socialized the same way;
for her to get married she should know how to cook, to be pretty for The One, to Please him,
The ( Male) One is the head of the Family, the one who is supposedly earning the income of the family, and supposedly is and will be the new baby of the wife, I mean Women….
I m still shocked, no comment on this post.
here it is copy pasted in Arabic:
“كيف تعرفين انك لاتصلحين كزوجة .. .. .. .. _ إذا دخل زوجكي البيت ولم تتركي كل شيء في يدك وذهبتي لإستقباله والإبتسامة في وجهه ومواساته بعد تعبه ,,, إذاً فإنكي لا تنفعين زوجة . _ إذا كان زوجكي لا يأكل من طبخ يديكي ويذهب ويشتري الأكل من المطعم ولا يغسل ملابسه إلا عامل المغسلة,,, إذا أنتي لا تنفعين زوجة. _ اذا غضب زوجكي ورددتي عليه الكلمة بعشر كلمات ورفعتي صوتكي عليه ,,, إذا لا تنفعين زوجة . …_ اذا جلستي مع زوجكي في البيت ورائحتكي كريهه أو لباسكي غير نظيف وغير أنيق ,,, إذاً لا تنفعين زوجة . _إذا أفشيتي أسرار بيتكي لأمك أو لأختكي أو لصديقاتك ,,, إذاً فأنتي لا تنفعين زوجة . ـ إذا حرضتي زوجكي على أهله ولم تعينيه في بر أهله ,,, إذا فأنتي لا تنفعين زوجة . _ إذا حانت الصلاة ولم توقظي زوجكي للصلاة ولم تأمريه بطاعة الله عز وجل وتطلبي منه ترك المحرمات وتعينيه على التوبة ,,, إذا فأنتي لا تنفعين زوجة.