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Did you know that a person with mental disability has  many privileges? that person can do Anything just like you!

and here is the great play that has been produced and executed by Saydeh community of Faith and Light (In which I am a very proud member)

the Play is called let us create bridges, and features 2 brothers living in a big farm with their respective families and children.

One day a dispute separated the brothers and they wanted to create a Wall to separate their farm.

the carpenter didn’t understand what was asked from him and one night instead of a Big wall separating the 2 farms, He and his team created a Bridge, bringing together again the 2 brothers and their families.

The hole story and the play was produced , executed and implemented by Faith and Light Community in Lebanon “Saydeh” and played in May 2014 in Lebanon

below is the video posted om You Tube https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5UJUBQKrsro

Rita Chemaly ( A very proud member of Faith and Light)

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Yesterday at a restaurant serving lebanese food I was shocked a small boy of 7 to 8 years old maybe was serving on the tables.

He was offering narguileh (the famous smoking pipe very well-known in Lebanon), and drinks to us. Is that safe??  Also, I remembered that during the video-shooting of the prank organised by Sakker el Dekkeneh, a small boy of 12 years old followed me on the street to take a free “brevet” and “baccalaureat”. He didn’t understand that it was a prank against corruption in Lebanon, all what he wanted is a school diploma. When I asked why aren’t you at school, he said I have to work!

In Lebanon with the millions of refugees flying from Syria we are witnessing the high numbers of those working children. They are everywhere at the hairdresser, on some construction sites (which is not safe at all for them), at the restaurants, and in the streets!

The problem is that those young boys and girls are deprived from any opportunity to have an education!!! they are obliged to leave school and attend to their families welfare at a very early age!!

I don’t know which associations, NGOs or International Organisations  (other than what I have read on ILO webpage ) are working on that subject in Lebanon, but the issue needs to be adressed as a priority!!!

Rita Chemaly

Stop #Childlabour #Redcard #ILO

Stop #Childlabour #Redcard #ILO

 

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I was tore, my brother hit me with his belt when I refused the aged groom …. The first night was a nightmare, I was ashamed of what we did.  I was not a happy Cinderella after that. I was pregnant at 12…. those are what child brides are telling us, their testimonies are terrible! How do you feel if your little 12 years old girl is getting married and for life in a country like Lebanon? The white veil will change into black chains!! Image(picture source)

In Lebanon, Child Marriage is not well criminalised and this shocks me greatly!

We have a law protecting minors “kanoun ahdass” , a law that transcend the sects ( 18 confessions  in Lebanon) but regarding marriage issues even this law is not clear. There is a blank!!

Our Lebanese Penal Code the famous “kanoun el oukoubat” permits a child marriage with the CONSENT of the parents or the “wali“.

For me this is a disguised human trade: It means a dad can “sell” his children and this is protected and covered by the Lebanese law!!

I have been shocked by what Abeer abdel Samad from the Ministry of Social Affairs Speech during a conference on Child Marriage organised by RDFL told us:  MOSA (Ministry of Social Affairs)  has discovered that children are “taught” what to say in front of a religious leader by the “waseet” it means the one who find a husband for the children!! Ahhhh!!!

Moreover, and More terrible for me is our Penal Code in Lebanon: it does punish a religious leader that married a minor or a child without the consent of the parents (father)  with just 500 000 LL !! almost 300$ Only!!! the price of a cheap mobile phone!!!!!

This article number 483 of the Penal Code in Lebanon needs to be amended Asap!!

for those who read arabic here is the text of the article 483 of the Penal Code in Lebanon :

المادة 483 – زواج قاصر

 عدلت الغرامة الواردة في المادة 483 بموجب القانون رقم 239 تاريخ 27/5/1993 على الوجه التالي

 اذا عقد أحد رجال الدين زواج قاصر لم يتم الثامنة عشرة من عمره دون أن يدون في العقد رضى من له الولاية على القاصر او ان يستعاض عنه باذن القاضي عوقب بالغرامة من خمسين ألف الى خمسماية ألف ليرة

In my opinion we must act and amend and change this article

1-Punishment should be more severe ( prison, triple or quadriple the amount of money the religious leader will pay?…)

2- We (as Lebanese activists, parents, citizens,…)  cannot  accept that children are forced to get married by their so called “parents” because of economical problems! If a minor get the consent of his parents “father” they can easily get married!! and no one will lift a tiny finger after that to help the poor child, that might be abused, that might get an early pregnancy, that might, as one of the Lebanese child bride testified in the movie get violented by the family in law, ect.

3- We need to clearly say no to #Childtrade and to #Childmarriage in Lebanon.  That is in my opinion a form of it!!

Rita Chemaly

 

 

 

For those who are interested in joining forces and mobilise against child marriage in Lebanon,

here are some readings and sources:

1- My previous post of February 1 2014 related to Child Marriage: Join the Movement to end Child Marriage in Lebanon (French)

2-My previous post of January 25 2014 related to child bride : Early marriages in Lebanon who helps the bride child ? (English)

3- The article of Layal Timani in the Legal Agenda of 1 February 2014 (Arabic)

زواج القاصرات بين الفتاوى الشرعية والقانون!  “سندريلا” تقع فريسة احلامها

4- The article of Nermine Sibai in the Legal Agenda (Arabic)

قضاة الأحداث في لبنان يرسمون حدود الحماية: صلاحيات المحاكم الشرعية والرواسب الاجتماعية الرجعية

 5- The article of Ana Maria Luca in NOW Lebanon of 30102013 : Lebanon’s child brides  (English)

6- The short video created by NCLW, IWSAW and LAU to shed lights on the terrific consequences of child Marriage in Lebanon: Campaign against child bride : Early marriages In Lebanon    (Arabic with english subtitles)

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ImageThe evolution of media and the progress of communication have made it easier than ever for young people to share their private information, pictures and other. More people are encountering the risk to be bullied when they share their private pictures, their statuses and their life.

Bullying occurs when a person or a group repeatedly and intentionally use or abuse their power to intimidate, hurt, oppress or damage someone else”.  Bullying can be physical, verbal, social, or on the cyber space.

On Social Media what we witness is a replication of the bullying done on the traditional media such as TV shows. Prime time comedies such as Wajdi w majdi in Lebanon are what we can categorize as social bullying. “Repeated mimicking,” “nasty pranks”, using homophobic or racist slurs damage the reputation of a whole community such as the LGBT.

Usually teenagers, children and communities that are bullied are “ill-equipped” and do not know how to respond.

In my opinion parents and teachers should clearly explain to their children and students the importance of the privacy settings of social networks , such as facebook.

With the progress of the education system in Lebanon and the use of tablets and internet since primary school, teachers and responsible should create groups of the children for them to put the norms of ethics. And a sharter of responsible use of the comment part of the social networks and platforms such as Facebook and twitter.

Moreover they need to talk to them and teach them to never post or say anything that they wouldn’t want the whole world to know. One day the boss may check the profile of a person. As the ex-girl friend of Mark Zuckeberg said in the movie of the social network: “the internet is written in Ink and not in Pencil.” What you post, send or publish can never be deleted, and can easily go viral so be aware!

Rita Chemaly

PS: I wrote this post after doing research for the episode of CASES that hosted me and my long time friend Hussein. .

TO WATCH the full episode: http://youtu.be/Vv960GiW85g

Below is the description published on You Tube: “The show CASES, produced by Aly Sleem and Shant Kerbabian and hosted by Shant Kerbabian, deals with human rights violations, regardless of any political affiliation and agenda. We stand by the oppressed people everywhere, so we aim at tackling their cases professionally from both humanitarian and legal perspectives. Our objective is to raise awareness and to speak out for those who have no voice

We were glad to host:

In our studio in Beirut: Rita Chemaly, Author and Researcher on Human Rights

Via Satellite from Beirut: Hussein Itany, Human Rights Activist and Advocacy Trainer”

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Encore des discriminations, des discriminations en boucles!

Le parlement va “parait-il” re-etudier le projet de loi pour donner la nationalite libanaise a ceux qui sont d’origine Libanaise.

bon, voila un bon point pour les emigres de longue date, si j’oublie qu’un tel octroi ne se fait que pour une certaine balance communautaire.

mais encore plus le probleme est l’exception: ceux d’origine libanaise et qui ont droit a la nationalite sont seulement des Hommes!!! et non des femmes!!!

donc vos cousines, vos arrieres cousines, vos arrieres grands-meres, et leurs soeurs n’y ont pas droit, juste leur freres y ont droit!!

allons donc!!! mettons un gros zero au patriarcalisme, et aux societes retrogrades qui ne reconnaissent pas les femmes en tant que citoyennes pleines et entieres!!

ci-dessous le brief de la campagne ma nationalite est mon droit et celui de ma famille Image

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Rita Chemaly

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Ouiii enfin, le gouvernement tunisien a annoncé le dépôt de la notification auprès du secrétaire général des Nations Unies, du retrait des réserves relatives à  la Convention sur l’élimination de toutes les formes de discrimination à l’égard des femmes la celebre (CEDAW).

La Tunisie avait ratifié cette convention en 1985 mais les réserves emises a la Conventions etaient nombreuses:  articles 9 (nationalité), l’article 15 (égalité devant la loi) et l’article 16 (droit matrimonial) .
Le Liban a adhere a la CEDAW, mais il a aussi emis des reserves qui le laissent Loin derriere entre les pays qui ne donnent pas leurs pleins droits aux femmes.

Pour ne citer que le droit des femmes libanaises a transmettre leur Nationalite a leurs enfants et maris (non nationaux) (sujet que je couvre amplement dans ce blog), les droits lies au mariage (aussi debattus dans ce blog), ( mariage, divorce, heritage, adoption…).

Rita Chemaly

pour plus d’infos sur la levee des reserves par la tunisie (bravo bravo) voila quelques liens:
Tunisie : Les réserves à la CEDAW enfin levées !  
Je Rêve : La Libanaise est citoyenne de « seconde classe » ?

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« On a gagné ! Je suis très contente, je viens d’avoir un enfant et vraiment, 49 jours de congé maternité ne suffisent pas à la mère pour se remettre physiquement et psychologiquement de la grossesse et de l’accouchement, apprendre à connaître son enfant, allaiter… C’est un grand pas pour la femme libanaise qui travaille, mais aussi pour l’enfant et l’ensemble de la famille ! »

Après trois ans de bataille, Rita Chemaly, consultante pour le développement des projets à la Commission nationale pour les droits de la femme, ne peut contenir sa joie : les députés ont voté mercredi dernier en session plénière deux propositions de loi : l’une amende l’article 38 de la loi 112 allongeant le congé maternité des employées du secteur public de 60 à 70 jours, l’autre amende les articles 28-29 du code du travail en étendant la durée du congé maternité de 49 jours à 10 semaines (soit 70 jours consécutifs), payés à salaire complet. Toutes les Libanaises, quel que soit leur employeur, bénéficient désormais d’un congé de 70 jours payés à plein salaire. Les lois entreront en vigueur dès leur publication au Journal officiel, soit mardi ou jeudi au plus tard.

C’est en 2011 que la Commission nationale pour les droits de la femme s’engage pour l’extension du congé maternité. L’association lance à cette époque, en partenariat avec de nombreuses associations pour le droit des femmes, une campagne nationale pour amender les lois qui ont un impact économique négatif sur les femmes. Intitulée Wayn Ba’dna (on en est encore là), la campagne vise à assurer l’égalité de la femme vis-à-vis de l’homme au niveau de la Sécurité sociale et des impôts notamment. L’extension du congé maternité fait partie des mesures prônées. « Un congé maternité trop court constitue une discrimination pour les femmes car elles peuvent hésiter à avoir des enfants de peur de perdre leur emploi », explique Rita Chemaly.

« Nous avons rédigé une proposition de loi en nous basant sur les dispositions des textes internationaux (Convention sur l’élimination de toutes les formes de discrimination à l’égard des femmes (Cedaw), le Pacte international relatif aux droits économiques, sociaux et culturels) et nous sommes allés voir deux députés, Gilberte Zouein, présidente de la commission des Droits de la femme, et Michel Moussa, président de la commission des Droits de l’homme, afin de leur soumettre notre proposition de loi. Nous avons ensuite suivi de très près le travail des commissions parlementaires, nous avons écrit au président de la Chambre Nabih Berry pour qu’il mette la proposition de loi à l’ordre du jour de l’agenda de l’Assemblée nationale. » Et s’il a fallu autant de temps pour que la loi soit votée en assemblée plénière, c’est à cause de problèmes d’ordre politique, le Parlement ne s’étant pas réuni pendant des mois, précise l’activiste.

S’il s’agit incontestablement d’une victoire pour la Libanaise, cette extension du congé maternité reste insuffisante au regard des normes internationales et le Liban fait toujours figure de mauvais élève en matière de protection de la maternité au travail. D’après les chiffres de l’Organisation internationale du travail (OIT, 2012), 85 % des pays du monde ont instauré un congé maternité d’au moins 12 semaines. 98 % des pays d’Europe et de la CEI ont un congé maternité de 14 semaines et plus, et presque 2/3 de ces pays en offrent plus de 18 semaines. À l’opposé, 90 % des pays arabes du Moyen-Orient ont un congé maternité de moins de 12 semaines. Quelques exemples : France : 16 semaines, Norvège : jusqu’à 57 semaines, Brésil : 17 semaines, Tunisie : 30 jours, Arabie Saoudite : 10 semaines, Syrie : 17 semaines.
La durée de 10 semaines adoptée la semaine dernière au Liban reste bien en deçà des normes internationales que prône notamment l’OIT. « La convention (n° 183) sur la protection de la maternité prévoit un congé maternité de 14 semaines. Bien que le Liban n’ait pas signé cette convention, il faut qu’il se rapproche de cette norme. Nous n’avons pas voulu revendiquer les 14 semaines directement pour ne pas que les organismes économiques s’opposent frontalement à l’extension. Nous avons préféré procéder étape par étape », détaille Rita Chemaly. Contrairement à la France où c’est la Sécurité sociale qui couvre, au Liban, c’est l’employeur qui assure le paiement des salaires pendant le congé maternité.

Pour autant, la bataille n’est pas finie. « Maintenant, nous allons lutter pour un nouveau rallongement du congé maternité et la création d’un congé paternité payé entièrement. Ça, c’est ma campagne personnelle, car le père est partie intégrante de l’éducation des enfants », affirme Rita Chemaly.

Un article par Anne ILCINKAS | OLJ

http://www.lorientlejour.com/article/862067/lextension-du-conge-maternite-une-victoire-pour-la-libanaise-mais-encore-bien-en-deca-des-normes-internationales.html

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maternity leave lebanon

 

Mabrouk!!!

Finally the Maternity leave in Lebanon has been extended in Lebanon !!!!

Youpiiii!!!!

As a mother, as an activist as a women, as a Citizen this is a first step!!!

we need those 10 weeks, but …. as I always say in my post we will have to continue to fight for the other issues related to Women!!!

the battle to gain those few weeks has been tremendous! It was a pleasure to lobby the parliamentary committees, commissions, and ask the Member of Parliament to Vote for our rights!!

Now the mothers and their babies can cuddle, meet, and rest for a few more weeks together!!

Mabrouk to all!!!!

 

Rita Chemaly

 

Some of my previous posts about the same issue:

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Small steps for gender equality, long road ahead in Lebanon

http://ritachemaly.wordpress.com/2013/03/07/8-mars-womensday-et-au-liban-les-discriminations-qui-atteignent-les-femmes-sont-encore-nombreuses/

http://ritachemaly.files.wordpress.com/2013/03/droits-des-femmes-au-liban-2012-rita-chemaly-auteur-et-chercheure1.jpg

http://ritachemaly.files.wordpress.com/2013/06/droits-des-femmes-au-liban-conge-maternite-et-conge-paternite-par-rita-chemaly.jpg

http://ritachemaly.wordpress.com/2012/10/12/en-avril-le-conseil-des-ministres-allonge-le-conge-maternite-a-10-semaines/

http://ritachemaly.wordpress.com/2012/10/12/congratulations-lebanese-women-can-now-have-60-days-of-maternity-leave/

Members of Parliament we Want an Extension of the Maternity Leave In Lebanon 

NOW!

Maternity Leave In Lebanon is in the drawer of Parliament because of Political problems

March 21 is mother day but in Lebanon women are not treated fairly maternity leave is a must

en Avril Le Conseil des Ministres Allonge le Conge maternite a 10 semaines

Lebanese Mothers: Missing Their Babies … an article about maternity leave by C.Benoit

Le conge maternite au Liban en route vers la ratification finale

A step Forward to women’s rights … Maternity leave in Labor law is amended

 

 

 

 

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Hello Parents !!! مرحبا إلكن.

 

une tres tres belle video (en arabe ou anglais) relatant un dialogue entre une maman libanaise et son fils emigre aux etats-unis pour travailler.

Elle essaye de lui dire de trouver une femme et construire une famille avec des enfants, il lui cache gentiment son orientation sexuelle.

A voir!!!!

Rita Chemaly

 

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As a consultant for the National Commission for Lebanese Women, Rita Chemaly is  expertly acquainted with the complexities inherent to the fight for women’s  equality rights in Lebanon – but last July she faced a personal  struggle.

At seven-months pregnant, she was one of many expectant mothers  waiting for Parliament to approve key amendments to the national labor law that  would extend maternity leave to 70 days, over the legally allotted 49 .

Chemaly identified the draft law to criminalize family violence and amendments  to ensure equal citizenship as the most pressing, and regrettably, subject to  the vagaries of personal status and sectarian politics.

While the debate  about domestic violence centers on religious opposition, the one raging over  amending the citizenship law is a thornier and overtly political affair, as  opponents argue it is incompatible with Lebanon’s confessional  system.

“This proves that the law is discriminatory in its origin and has  nothing to do with the concerns about and fears of Palestinian settlement in  Lebanon,” she said in the study.

Read more:  http://www.dailystar.com.lb/News/Lebanon-News/2014/Mar-08/249615-small-steps-for-gender-equality-long-road-ahead.ashx#ixzz2w0ppzjDY

thank you Samya  Kullab for your articles covering lebanese women struggle in their fight for their rights!

 

Rita

The  Daily Star

Read more:  http://www.dailystar.com.lb/News/Lebanon-News/2014/Mar-08/249615-small-steps-for-gender-equality-long-road-ahead.ashx#ixzz2w0qZosr9 (The Daily Star :: Lebanon News ::  http://www.dailystar.com.lb)

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I was glad to be once again the host of Etijah show “Cases”, in which we tackled the recurrent problem of Human trafficking in the region.

After explaining and defining what  is Human trafficking and observing what are the Human trafficking forms in the region,  you will discover that during the episode the other host Mrs Hariri and I, did not convene on the matter of the migrant domestic workers in the region. For me I couldn’t but define the migrant Workers as specific subjects to clear Human Trafficking.

I remember that back in 2011, I blogged about how the Lebanese parliament passed and approved an  Anti-Trafficking Legislation by that amended the Lebanese penal code and criminal procedures to specifically address the crime of trafficking in persons. here is the link to my September 2011 post related to Human trafficking http://ritachemaly.wordpress.com/2011/09/05/anti-trafficking-law-approved-in-lebanon/

Again I repeat: Human trafficking is the trade of human, human trafficking is the fact of threating,  Forced labor is a form of human trafficking, removal of organ is a form of human trafficking,  mobilizing children as child soldiers is trafficking, threating the migrant worker, locking her in the house, confiscating her/his passport, is a form of Human trafficking.

All governmental institutions (related Ministries, related administrations, police, parliament, …) with the help of non-governmental institutions such as NGOs, schools, media should work on preventing Human trafficking in Lebanon, especially with the recurrent Syrian Crisis and the preeminent problem of child marriages that we are witnessing!

Rita Chemaly

here is the definition by the protocol to prevent and suppress Human trafficking : Article 3, paragraph (a) of the    Protocol to Prevent, Suppress and Punish Trafficking in Persons defines Trafficking in Persons as    the recruitment, transportation, transfer, harbouring or receipt of persons, by means of the threat or use of force or other forms of coercion, of abduction, of fraud, of deception, of the abuse of power or of a position of vulnerability or of the giving or receiving of payments or benefits to achieve the consent of a person having control over another person, for the purpose of exploitation. Exploitation shall include, at a minimum, the exploitation of the prostitution of others or other forms of sexual exploitation, forced labour or services, slavery or practices similar to slavery, servitude or the removal of organs .”

the show can be watched on You Tube via this direct link: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mT10ZlXeoWA 

below is the description of the show on You tube:

 Published on Mar  4, 2014

The show CASES, produced by Aly Sleem and Shant Kerbabian and hosted by Shant Kerbabian, deals with human rights violations, regardless of any political affiliation and agenda. We stand by the oppressed people everywhere, so we aim at tackling their cases professionally from both humanitarian and legal perspectives. Our objective is to raise awareness and to speak out for those who have no voice
We were glad to host: In our Studio: Ms. Diana Hariri, Activist and General Coordinator of Human Rights Center, LIU

Via Satellite from Beirut:Dr. Rita Chemaly, Author and Human Rights Activist

rita chemaly expert talking about human trafficking in the middle east

 

 

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Un juge libanais dans le Metn n’a pas utilise l’horrible article 534 du code penal

Youpi!!! enfin un homme de droit sensé!!

quand un ami juge m’a raconté l’histoire il y a quelques jours je ne l’ai pas cru, mais Youmna dans le Legal agenda explique comment le juge a statué et relate toute l’histoire et a publie le jugement!!

et jl’ai bien dit aujourdu’hui est une belle journee ensoleillee au Liban!!

bravo ce premier pas Monsieur le Juge Dahdah, a quand la police, les forces de l’ordre et la société vont arrêter de stigmatiser, stéréotyper et criminaliser l’homosexualité au Liban???

Ci dessous le lien de l’article paru dans le legal agenda http://www.legal-agenda.com/article.php?id=676&folder=articles&lang=ar#.Uxg_001WFol et voilale lien du jugement !!! http://www.legal-agenda.com/images/articles/1394018421-حكم.pdf ce qui est interessant c’est que le Liban a reconnu sa “gender identity”

et je ne peux que repeter ce que Gino a bien conclu dans son post a ce sujet” To everyone still not ok with all of this, please, just remember, who the fuck are you to have a say in other people’s lives when it doesn’t affect you? Mind your own business and stop worrying what gays, lesbians, transgender and other gender minorities do with their lives, their bodies and who they choose to love. “

voila!! c’est dit! :-)

trop contente!! belle journee!!

Rita Chemaly

أندروجين” أمام القضاء الجزائي اللبناني: حكم ثان لإعادة تعريف المجامعة خلافاً للطبيعة

يمنى مخلوف

من ارشيف المفكرة القانونية

في بدء التكوين كان آدم، أول الرجال، وكانت حواء أولى النساء، ولكنه وفقا” لأفلاطون، قبل آدم وقبل حواء، كان أندروجين، كائن مكتمل، يمتلك جنس الذكر وجنس الأنثى معا”، أعضاؤه التناسلية مزدوجة، إلا أنه بعدما اشتد غروره وتجرّأ على مهاجمة الآلهة، عوقب فشطر الى جزئين، ذكر وأنثى.   بتاريخ 28/1/2014، أصدر القاضي المنفرد الجزائي في جديدة المتن ناجي الدحداح حكماً بتبرئة متحوّلة جنسياً، بعدما تم الادعاء عليها على أساس أنها تقيم علاقات مع ذكور. وقد شكل هذا الحكم مؤشراً هاماً جداً، ليس فقط على صعيد التعامل مع متحولي الجنس ولكن أيضاً على صعيد تفسير المادة 534 من قانون العقوبات الخاصة بمعاقبة المجامعة خلافاً للطبيعة، والتي غالباً ما استُخدمت لمعاقبة العلاقات المثلية. ومن المعلوم أن المادة المذكورة طرحت في السنوات الأخيرة إشكاليات متنوعة في الوسط القضائي تمحورت حول معنى العبارات المستعملة فيها، فمنهم من رفض تجريم العلاقات المثلية على أساسها، ومنهم من فسّر المادة على أنها تجرّم هذا النوع من العلاقات[1].   وقائع الدعوى: شخص وُلد مع أعضاء تناسلية مشوّهة وغير مكتملة، أي أن أعضاءه التناسلية لا تسمح بتحديد انتمائه الجنسي الذكري أو الأنثوي، تسجل في سجلات الأحوال الشخصية على أنه ذكر، إذ لا وجود لأي خانة ثالثة في قيود الأحوال الشخصية، والفرد يصنّف عند ولادته إلزامياً بالذكر أو الأنثى. لكنه لطالما شعر بميل كبير ليصبح امرأة بسبب الهرمونات الأنثوية في جسمه، ما أدى به الى الخضوع في التسعينيات الى عمليات جراحية من استئصال للعضو الذكري وزرع رحم اصطناعي. وعلى أثر علاقاته الجنسية مع الذكور، تم توقيفه والادعاء عليه أمام القاضي المنفرد الجزائي في جديدة المتن وقد شكلت هذه الملاحقة على حد علمنا الحالة الأولى لمحاكمة متحوّل جنسي أمام القضاء الجزائي، علماً أن القضاء المدني قد سبق له أن استجاب لطلبات عديدة مقدمة من متحوّلي جنس لتصحيح قيودهم في سجلات الأحوال الشخصية[2]. تبعاً لذلك، طُرح على القاضي سؤال أساسي بشأن مفهوم المجامعة خلافاً للطبيعة.هل هي المجامعة التي تتم بين شخصين ينتميان الى الجنس الواحد؟ وفي حال الإيجاب، كيف يتم تحديد هذا الجنس والهوية الجنسية؟ هل هي الهوية المعتمدة في الأوراق والسجلات، أم هي الهوية البيولوجية، أو لربما الهوية النفسية، أو يا ترى الهوية الاجتماعية؟ وما مدى حرية الشخص في تحديد هويته الجنسية وفي ممارسة العلاقات الجنسية؟   ينطلق القاضي في تحليله بادئ ذي بدء من هوية الشخص المتهم كما أُدرجت في سجلات النفوس فيشير اليه بالذكر. إلا أنه يرافق الشخص منذ ولادته لغاية تاريخ الحكم: وعليه، وبعد أخذه بعين الاعتبار تطوّر الشخص اجتماعياً ونفسياً وخارجياً، يتراجع القاضي عن تصنيفه الأولي المسند الى ظاهر سجلات النفوس فيعود ويشير الى المتهم بمفردات لغوية مزدوجة عبر تعريفه له بـ”المدعى عليه(ا)”، مشدداً بذلك على هوية جنسية مزدوجة، معقدة وعميقة، لا يمكن وضعها في خانة ذكر أو أنثى، فتظهر لنا للمرة الأولى على الصعيد القانوني هوية ثالثة تشمل الذكر والأنثى، وتكرّس حرية الشخص في الانتماء الجنسي وإن لم يدخل في إطار الفئات المعتمدة في المجتمع.   وإن هذا التمنع له بالطبع ارتدادات مهمة على صعيد المادة 534 من قانون العقوبات. فتحييد الجنس كعنصر لتطبيق هذه المادة، والارتكاز على “الشكل الخارجي” والتصرفات الاجتماعية والشعور النفسي من شأنه إعادة النظر بتجريم العلاقات بين المثليين. إذ إنه في ظل عدم اعتماد الانتماء الجنسي كعامل لتطبيق المادة، لا يمكن تعريف المجامعة خلافاً للطبيعة سنداً لهذا الانتماء عبر تفسيرها على أنها تشمل العلاقات بين الأفراد المنتمين الى الجنس نفسه.   هذه القراءة للحكم تؤكدها الخلاصة التي وصل اليها الحكم بإبطال التعقبات لارتكاب جنحة المادة 534 من قانون العقوبات لانتفاء عناصرها الجرمية، عملاً بالمبدأين الآتيين:   أولا: مبدأ عدم التوسع في تفسير النص الجزائي. في هذا المجال، يذكّر الحكم “أن المشترع لم يحدد مفهوماً واضحاً للمجامعة على خلاف الطبيعة” وأنه في غياب هذا التعريف، يستعيد القاضي سلطة تقديرية لتفسير النص، على أن تفسير النص في المادة الجزائية يتجه نحو الحصر نظراً لما قد يؤدي التوسع في التفسير الى تقييد للحريات الفردية. من هذا المنطلق، يذهب الحكم الى تعريف حصري لمفهوم “الخلاف للطبيعة” حيث إنه يؤكد أن “الأشخاص المصابين بحالة الاضطراب في الهوية الجنسية (…) وإن شذوا عن القاعدة وخرجوا عن المألوف، فهم يبقون من ولادة الطبيعة التي لم يخرجوا إلا منها”، مذكّراً بأن الخروج عن المألوف لا يعني الشذوذ وأن الطبيعة لا تعرّف بسلوك الأكثرية. ومن هذه الجهة، يتميز الحكم بنظرته للطبيعة الإنسانية معيداً بذلك أصداء الحكم الصادر عن القاضي المنفرد الجزائي في البترون بتاريخ 2-12-2009 الذي جاء فيه حرفياً “أن الإنسان هو جزء من الطبيعة وأحد عناصرها، فلا يمكن القول عن أي ممارسة من ممارساته أو عن أي سلوك من سلوكه أنه مخالف للطبيعة حتى ولو كان سلوكاً جرمياً لأنها هي أحكام الطبيعة”. وتجدر الإشارة هنا الى ما ذهب اليه الحكم لجهة أن مفاهيم القانون الجزائي تستقل عن مفاهيم الأديان السماوية مفادها، فضلاً عن اعتماد القاضي على معايير علمانية مستقلة، تحرير السلوكيات الاجتماعية، خاصة الجنسية منها، من قيود الأهداف التناسلية للعلاقات الجنسية.    أما المنطلقات الثانية التي استند اليها الحكم، فمفادها “ما كرّسه الدستور اللبناني وشرعة حقوق الإنسان لجهة وجوب ضمان المساواة بين الأفراد في المجتمع وصون حريتهم الشخصية، خصوصاً عندما لا تؤدي هذه الحريات الى الإضرار بالغير. وبالطبع، لهذه المبادئ أبعاد تتعدى متحولي الجنس لتشمل المثليين، حيث إن المحكمة الأوروبية لحقوق الإنسان قد سبق لها أن استندت الى المبادئ نفسها لإدانة الدول التي تجرّم علاقات المثليين[3] وقد أشار الحكم موضوع التعليق في هذا الإطار الى “قرار مجلس حقوق الإنسان الصادر بتاريخ 17 حزيران 2011 الذي لحظ بوضوح، لأول مرة، إجراءات لمواجهة الانتهاكات والتمييز تجاه الأشخاص بسبب ميلهم الجنسي وهويتهم الجنسية، وإن كان غير ملزم للبنان”.   أخيراً، لا بد من التشديد على أن معضلة المادة 534 من قانون العقوبات ليست بهاجس يحصر بمثليين ومتحولي الجنس، فالحديث عن تجريم كل مجامعة خلافاً للطبيعة يثير مسألة مدى حرية الأفراد أياً كان ميلهم الجنسي في تنظيم علاقاتهم الخاصة خارج إطار الزواج، وفق ما يرونه مناسباً، دون أي تمييز كان. إذ إنه على الرغم من أن القانون اللبناني لا يعاقب المساكنة غير الزوجية في لبنان بصورة مباشرة، إلا أنه عبر التمييز بين الحقوق الإرثية للأولاد الناتجين من علاقة زوجية وأولئك الناتجين من علاقة خارج إطار الزواج، يعود ويعاقبها وإن بصورة غير مباشرة.   وإلغاء المادة 534 من قانون العقوبات حجر أساس لصد التعديات غير المحقة في خصوصية الفرد. والحكم موضوع التعليق يرسم لنا مع سابقه المشار اليه أعلاه الاتجاه الذي يقتضي سلوكه.
نشر في العدد الرابع عشر من مجلة المفكرة القانونية     المزيد عن الحكم على الرابط ادناه

[1]وحيد الفرشيشي ونزار صاغية، العلاقات المثلية في قوانين العقوبات: دراسة عامة عن قوانين الدول العربية مع تقريرين عن لبنان وتونس. [2]يمنى مخلوف، قضاة الأساس يجتهدون: لمتخالطي الجنس أن يصححوا قيد جنسهم في سجلات النفوس، المفكرة القانونية، 26 ايلول 2011. [3] Diane Roman, Fasc. 640 : droit au respect de la vie privée, du domicile et de la correspondance, 2007 : « Réfutant que la protection de la morale puisse justifier des poursuites pénales, la Cour européenne des droits de l’homme a affirmé que “ du point de vue de la proportionnalité, les conséquences dommageables que l’existence même des dispositions législatives en cause peut entraîner sur la vie d’une personne aux penchants homosexuels, comme le requérant, prédominent aux yeux de la Cour sur les arguments plaidant contre tout amendement au droit en vigueur. L’accomplissement d’actes homosexuels par autrui et en privé peut lui aussi heurter, choquer ou inquiéter des personnes qui trouvent l’homosexualité immorale, mais cela seul ne saurait autoriser le recours à des sanctions pénales quand les partenaires sont des adultes consentants”. La protection de la vie privée fournit un cadre général interdisant à l’État de s’immiscer, sauf justification suffisante fournie par le risque de nuire à des individus vulnérables ou par des répercussions sur la collectivité (CEDH, 22 oct. 1981, Dudgeon c/ RU : GACEDH, PUF, 2005, p. 410, F. Sudre et al. – V. aussi, CEDH, Modinos c/ Chypre, série A. 259, 22 avr. 1993. – CEDH, ADT c/ RU, 31 juill. 2000 : RTDH 2002, p. 345, note M. Levinet – Solution identique dans C. suprême États Unis, 26 juin 2003, n° 02-102, John Geddes Lawrence and Tyron Garner petitioners v. Texas. – V. D. Borillo (dir.), Homosexualités et droit, Les voies du droit : PUF, 1999) ».

Les autres articles sur le meme sujet:

l’article en anglais : Lebanon shows love for LGBT, reverses same-sex law in landmark case http://www.albawaba.com/editorchoice/lebanon-gay-558913

L’homosexualité au Liban dans l’attente d’une décriminalisation et d’une acceptation au Liban, un pays du Moyen Orient ou les normes patriarcales et religieuses priment

https://ritachemaly.wordpress.com/2012/09/07/lhomosexualite-au-liban-dans-lattente-dune-decriminalisation-et-dune-acceptation-dans-un-pays-ou-les-normes-patriarcales-et-religieuses-priment-par-rita-chemaly/

Homosexuel? des tests de la honte au Liban…

http://ritachemaly.wordpress.com/2012/03/28/la-religion-et-lhomosexualite/

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foi et lumiere liban toute personne est une histoire sacree rita chemaly

 

Toute personne est une histoire sacree et j’ajouterais a nous de la respecter !

Foi et lumiere Formation des jeunes a l’accompagnement en fevrier 2014

Plus d’enthousiame, plus de jeunes et beaucoup d’amour ont ete au rendez-vous du camp de formation pour les jeunes. Au menu une formation sur les divers genres d’handicaps: Nous avons appris c’est quoi l’autisme, comment connaitre une crise de schizophrenie, quoi faire dans certains cas notamment lors de nos camps d’ete! La plus value de cette formation est que la psychiatre qui nous a donne la formation a fait l’experience de Foi et Lumiere avec la Communaute de St Elie Antelias.

Aussi, la formation a gagne en intensite avec les experiences relatees de ceux et celles qui ont ete a la rencontre de Jean Vanier. Qui plus est, Haifa Moubarak de Foi et Lumiere Liban Haut KESRWAN est venue nous rappeler par des questions tres pertinentes la mission de Foi et Lumiere. Oui toute personne est une Histoire sacree! Encore plus, les responsables de BEYTI sont venus nous raconter les derniers details concernant le superbe projet d’un foyer pour les handicapes mentaux au Liban….ouiiii l’ouverture de ce centre approche grace aux efforts de tous et toutes!  les deux jours qui ont eu lieu en Fevrier 2014 au Liban dans la montagne libanaise avec la participation de plus de 40 jeunes, parents et amis ont ete un vrai moment de partage, d’apprentissage et d’ouverture a l’autre!

j’ai poste quelques photos sur FB et les ai ouvertes au public pour ceux ou celles qui veulent voir quelques photos du weekend de formation !

Rita Chemaly

pour plus d’infos sur foi et lumiere liban visitez la page creee a ce sujet et mise a jour de temps en temps :-) https://ritachemaly.wordpress.com/foi-et-lumiere-liban-faith-and-light-imane-wa-nour/

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It’s a Man’s Lebanon.

a great article by gino , in which he puts all my thoughts into words!!

and here is a part of it “Fake boobs, fake lips, fake ass cheeks, fake heels, fake brands, fake eyelashes and nails. Women are expected to dress provocatively, with cleavage on the verge of bursting and heels more fitting for a corner hooker, you’d think these girls are getting some action. If they do though, they become “damaged material” to other guys and girls, “ruining the honor” of her family. Heck, even posing topless like Jackie Chamoun can get you in a ton of trouble. So, in a hyper-sexually suggestive society, being promiscuous if you’re female is still very much frowned upon.”

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A la tele, et sur les radios, des histoires de jeunes enfants filles mariees de force alors qu’elles ont 11 et 12 ans font la une au Liban ces dernieres semaines. Pourquoi le probleme du mariage des enfants a ressurgi ainsi?

Pauvrete, exil, migrations, refugies, les causes sont nombreuses, les associations s’efforcent d’aider les jeunes filles, mais au Liban une loi n’existe pas pour les aider selon l’avocate Khalil qui suit plusieurs cas de filles “kidnappees” et “mariees” de force ou avec leur consentement.

L’avocate a explique dans une emission radio pour la voix du Liban que pour certaines des filles, cela commence par etre un jeu, et est presente par les “kidnappeurs” comme des bonbons.

voila l’histoire d’une jeune de 11 ans d’une jeune fille kidnappee et mariee et dont les parents ont porte plainte.

زواج القاصرات برسم القضاء والضحية طفلة في الحادية عشرة من العمر

زواج القاصرات أطل من بلدة فنيدق العكارية في ضوء تعرض الفتاة فاطمة القرحاني للخطف على يد شاب يبلغ من العمر 21 عاما بعد رفض العائلة طلبه للزواج بها. وفي ضوء الوساطات جرى التوافق على اتمام الزواج مع تحفظ الوالد.

المحامية بشرى الخليل وفي حديث الى صوت لبنان اشارت الى ان الحق العام  مرتبط بالحق الشخصي مشيرة الى امكانية بلوغ القضية المسار القضائي لجهة  قضية خطف وذلك في حال بقي الوالد على رفضه زواج ابنته القاصر.

Source http://www.vdl.com.lb/newsite/newsdetails.php?newsid=58172

Oui pour faire consentir une petite fille a quitter son foyer et se mariee , le marriage est presente comme une jolie chose “tu vas mettre une jolie robe”, “tu auras du maquillage”, “tu seras princesse pour un jour.”

voila une video de Girls Not Brides qui explique comment mettre un terme au marriage des enfants. The world we want: End child marriage

Every year, approximately 14 million girls are married before they turn 18, robbed of their rights to education, health and a life free of violence. Child marriage undermines our efforts to build a healthier, safer, just and more prosperous world for all.

Solutions exist. Child marriage can end. But we must work together.

This new video from Girls Not Brides looks at how we can work together to make child marriage history and improve the lives of millions of girls around the globe.child marraige One-size-too-big lebanon women rights rita chemaly

Il faut mettre un terme au mariage des enfants au Liban! et Vite!

Les consequence sont horribles!

Rita Chemaly

 

Les articles precedents sur le meme sujets : https://ritachemaly.wordpress.com/2014/01/25/early-marriages-in-lebanon-who-helps-the-bride-child/

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The short movie that appeared on LBCI news, is highlighting again the spur of the early marriages problem in Lebanon.

the fact is that child bride problem has been increasing within the refugee communities in Lebanon first Palestinian and now Syrian.

Many reports have exposed how girls of  less than 12 years old are being sold as child brides in refugee camps in Lebanon in 2013!

(Here are some articles about it Stolen Lives: Lebanon suffers problem of child brides , The Selling of Syria’s Refugee Child Brides, Marriages of shame, Child marriage on rise among Syrian refugees – aid groups , Syrian Refugees: Forced into Marrying off Their Daughters )

The problem is not new, but the stories are increasing with the plight of Syrian refugees fleeing the horrible war in their country , and child marriages are turning out into lucrative business for poor families.

Some religious authorities are part of this shameful act.

here is the link to LBCI report : published in January 2014 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oIw_NNBVdr4 and in which the dad talks about a religious man working on marrying his child.

here is the part of the UNICEF (MENA Gender Equality Profile) report that explains Lebanon situation related to child marriages:

Protection from child marriage.

There is no common minimum age of marriage that applies to all young Lebanese women and men as the personal status laws of the different religious denominations define the minimum age. In Lebanon’s third periodic CEDAW report (2006) the marriage ages of girls and boys for 10 different religious groups are listed. All of these religious groups allow girls under the age of 18 to marry. Among Sunni and Shiite Muslims, marriages of girls as young as 9 years old can be licenced given that approval is granted, although it is no longer customary that such young girls marry. Among the Jewish denomination, girls as young as 12.5 years old may  marry, and among the Syrian Orthodox and Armenian Orthodox a girl may be as young as 14 years old when she marries. For boys of most religious groups the marriageable age is 18, although marriages of younger boys can be approved by most of the groups.

it is needless to say, Lebanon has to put a halt to this, and to Forbid Child Marriages, as it is stipulated in Convention on the Right of the child ratified by Lebanon, the Convention on the Elimination of All Forms of Discrimination against Women ( CEDAW) also ratified by Lebanon, and other International treaties Lebanon should sign and Ratify such as the Convention on the Consent to Marriage, Minimum Age for Marriage and Registration of Marriage  after changing and amending its personal status laws!

Here is a working paper by Unicef too that shed lights on the child marriage problem Child marriage and the law.

Rita Chemaly

Child marriage in Lebanon Rita Chemaly researcher

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Dears

if you are interested in the status of Lebanon and whether Lebanon has ratified , accessed or signed a treaty, convention, protocol…

please do find attached this great map I found on the United Nations Website (United Nations treaty United Nations treaty collection, direct link, https://treaties.un.org/ , last accessed on January 21 2014.  )

the full treaty name is here, the date of signature or ratification is also featured

Good luck for all the researchers!

Rita Chemaly

LEBANON Treaties signed

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I am a new mother of a 3 months little boy and Leaving the newborn after 49 days is Horrible!

At 49 days, the little child is NOT sleeping at night yet, the little child needs to be nursed each 2 hours at least, he needs to be Breastfed,  at 49 days a little new born needs his parents and his Mother!!!!!

As for the mother, she needs to rest after the labour of the delivery and she needs to take care of herself and of her newborn! 49 days is not Enough for WORKING WOMEN in Lebanon!!! I can assure you, EVEN though I’m known as a workaholic and even though I love my work!

For working parents in Lebanon, the 49 days that are counted since the day of the delivery as per the labor law (even weekends are counted) are clearly Not Enough!

If I had not managed to take my personal vacation leaves after those 49 days, I would have left JN with his grandparents because I am lucky enough to have them.

But thinking of those parents who do not have a grandma who can take care of the newborn when the mother and dad are working , this is heartbreaking!

Lebanese Parliament members SHOULD MEET AND VOTE DURING A GENERAL ASSEMBLY on the draft law aiming at making the Maternity leave of 70 days!

this is the least women of Lebanon can accept!

Rita Chemaly a new mother who is waiting for the amendment of the Labor Law!

Ritachemaly campaign maternity leave

Some articles about the same issue:

http://ritachemaly.wordpress.com/2012/10/12/en-avril-le-conseil-des-ministres-allonge-le-conge-maternite-a-10-semaines/

http://ritachemaly.wordpress.com/2012/10/12/congratulations-lebanese-women-can-now-have-60-days-of-maternity-leave/

Members of Parliament we Want an Extension of the Maternity Leave In Lebanon 

NOW!

Maternity Leave In Lebanon is in the drawer of Parliament because of Political problems

March 21 is mother day but in Lebanon women are not treated fairly maternity leave is a must

en Avril Le Conseil des Ministres Allonge le Conge maternite a 10 semaines

Lebanese Mothers: Missing Their Babies … an article about maternity leave by C.Benoit

Le conge maternite au Liban en route vers la ratification finale

A step Forward to women’s rights … Maternity leave in Labor law is amended

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ghadi le film opinion de rita chemaly flanelle ghadi le film opinion de rita chemaly ghadi movie opinion by rita chemaly

 

I went with the Faith and Light Community to watch the movie Ghadi. The movie is a social comedy, which won many awards.

the pictures are nice, the colors, the comedy part describing the Lebanese customs and behavior in a village all those things are funny.

But What I disliked, Big time Disliked is how the movie is not related at All to Ghadi!!

Who is Ghadi? In the movie Ghadi is a child that has a mental handicap. The movie is entitled Ghadi, but for me, the child Doesn’t appear in the movie at all!!! Even on the billboards , the ads of the movie are not related to Ghadi, but picture the dad and the mum on a bicycle! why?

We didn’t meet Ghadi in this Movie!!!

we met he father Leba (Alias Georges Khabbaz) and his ideas and plot to make a story related to an “angel”.

Ghadi the handicapped boy, is pictured in this movie as an “angel” but even this we didn’t see!

he never mingled with the people of the “mshakkal” village he is supposed to live with!

the movie show us a small boy always sitting ALONE!! always sitting in his boxers and “flanella” ,

always alone! and just socializing with his father, mother and sisters!!

a Handicapped person can socialize, can communicate, sorry let me correct it, the only interaction I have noticed in this movie that is supposed to turn around a handicapped boy, was when he smiled and tried to make his neighbor Takla smile while mimicking his daddy.

a special case, can socialize, and can communicate, shouldn’t always be featured sitting on a balcony alone, just looking at people from behind bars,

again, I loved the visuals and the actors who played and showed us the Lebanese ways of living in a village,(sex worker, butcher, hairdresser….)  but and again, I disliked the message behind the story of the angel , and I was furious when I didn’t see ghady (the small boy that is a special case) having Any kind of communication, or any role, or any socialization in this movie!!

in Faith and Light we don’t see the special cases as special anymore, even the worse handicap is seen as “normal” and we try to make everybody participate in our activities. the aim of FL, for example is to help people to go out from the home circle, to let people KNOW, Mingle, and discuss with special cases!! discussion and communication, even listening are a way to know special cases better!!

I didn’t like how ghadi never get down from his home, stayed sitting on the window, always played alone,  never mingled with other fellows from the village, ghadi was pictured and stereotyped even more as a special case, as a different case,  and as an abnormal case!

bref, this Is my humble opinion!

rita chemaly

here is the trailer of the movie http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eGkDvVlFXbk

“Published on Sep 25, 2013

The trailer of Ghadi, a film by Amin Dora, a social comedy written by and starring Georges Khabbaz giving you a closer insight about a special kid and the struggles of his humble family. Expect strange phenomena to affect the behavior and beliefs of their little Lebanese town’s population.”

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Thank you Cases show for hosting me to shed light about women rights in Saudi-Arabia , KSA

to watch the show hosted by Farah Atoui and produced by Aly Sleem for Etejah TV Channel, follow the link

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pZyrMZhnNZw&feature=youtu.be

Kudos to all Saudi women driving, campaigning, speaking out and defying norms and bans,

You’ll do it one day, and achieve your political, social and economical rights!!

Rita Chemaly

Cases Rita Chemaly about women rights in Saudi Arabia KSA

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Last week, El Etijah has organized a specific episode related to Women and war. I have participated to this episode of the Evening Show of Esraa Haidar Zayour, to watch the 50 min episode : http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e73mMlYV618&feature=youtu.be

Women and War English Rita Chemaly Al Etejah TV 2013

Thanks to Esraa for shedding light on this important subject especially now, that Lebanon welcomes Syrian refugees.

War and armed conflicts change the social role of men and women,

war has horrible consequences on Women:

Rape, domestic violence, prostitution, early marriages, dropping out of schools, trauma, fear, anguish, dispersion of families….

thanks Esraa for highlighting what is being done to overcome war consequences in the refugees camps, and what needs to be done to empower Women ….

Stop Violence! No to War! Yes for Peace, Yes for Dialogue!

Rita Chemaly

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I insist, in a home the roles between a men and a women must be equal… Both can take care of their new born for example.

I was happy when my cousin told me that at first her husband gig, used to give the bath to the little girl, and more happy when I see dads playing with their kids in Jungle land… ( exception rare, mais existe).

The myth of the Lebanese boy, who usually lives with his parents, and under the spell of his mom, ironing his shirts, till 35 year or more, must change, this Lebanese boy, will one day be a dad, and He HAS to Participate and Be IN CHARGE, of the well being of his children, or new born… the Dad who only helps is for me a parent who is not doing his full job :-))

The same for the new mom who waits for her “hameto” or her “mom” or “gouvernante” or Domestic worker to iron, feed, sterilize, wash, give bath, change diapers….

euno… don’t you think that we can cuddle the so long waited new born by ourselves???

bref, as I am a pure Lebanese Women, and girl, who lived with her parents taking her in charge till 29 years old, I do not know how to take care of a baby, or a new born.

So when I new I was pregnant, I decided to prepare my self to the new job I will have to deal with, taking care with love of the new born.

I needed to learn how to Breastfeed, How to change Diapers, how to sterilize bottles, how to give a bath, how to massage the new born, how to cut the nails, and how to clean the face….

yes yes yes… all those are tasks, we as new parents have to learn, quickly!! if we want to succeed and have time to play, cuddle, love the new born :-)

so, My Husband and I, searched the internet for good learning tips , and we would love to share them with all pregnant women, and future daddy to be!!!

for you some very interesting short videos: Some are in French other in English:

1- how to clean the face of a new born / comment nettoyer le visage du nouveau ne : video in French http://www.aufeminin.com/bebe/video-soin-visage-bebe-n58255.html  or this http://www.aufeminin.com/video-maman-bebe/toilette-bebe-n77363.html

2- How to clean the ombilical cord of a new born / comment nettoyer le cordon du nouveau ne: video in French http://www.aufeminin.com/bebe/video-soin-du-cordon-n58254.html

3- How to change baby diapers/ comment changer la couche de bebe : video in French http://www.aufeminin.com/bebe/changer-couche-nouveau-ne-n58983.html

4- How to give a bath to a new born/ Le bain du nourisson: video In French http://www.aufeminin.com/bebe/video-bain-de-bebe-n58251.html

Page in English http://www.healthychildren.org/English/ages-stages/baby/bathing-skin-care/Pages/Bathing-Your-Newborn.aspx

video in English how to prepare and bath a baby http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-RnxD-KRkw8 or this good movie too  in English http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5k3SLNVccoo

5-How to place the new born to sleep/ comment coucher bebe video in French http://www.aufeminin.com/video-maman-bebe/video-coucher-bebe-n59189.html

et comment echapper a la mort du nourrison ou le SIDS video en anglais http://www.babycenter.com/2_how-to-reduce-your-babys-risk-of-sids_10360426.bc#videoplaylist

6- How to cut the nails of a new born / comment couper les onlges de bebe : video in French http://www.aufeminin.com/video-maman-bebe/couper-ongle-bebe-n84642.html

video In English how to trim nails of baby http://www.healthychildren.org/English/ages-stages/baby/bathing-skin-care/Pages/Trimming-Babys-Nails.aspx

7- Femme enceinte en voiture que faire / Pregnancy and car travel: video in English http://video.about.com/pregnancy/Pregnancy-and-Car-travel.htm

8- checkliste pour bien allaiter/ Breastfeeding checklist page in English : http://www.healthychildren.org/English/ages-stages/baby/breastfeeding/Pages/A-Breastfeeding-Checklist-Are-You-Nursing-Correctly.aspx

9- Que preparer avant d’aller a la maternite? what to prepare in your bag before going to deliver? video in English:  http://video.about.com/pregnancy/How-to-Pack-a-Maternity-Bag.htm

10- Comment soigner la peau de bebe/ Baby Skin basics video in English: http://www.healthychildren.org/English/ages-stages/baby/bathing-skin-care/Pages/Baby-Skin-Basics.aspx?nfstatus=401&nftoken=00000000-0000-0000-0000-000000000000&nfstatusdescription=ERROR:+No+local+token&nfstatus=401&nftoken=00000000-0000-0000-0000-000000000000&nfstatusdescription=ERROR:+No+local+token

11- Les taches sur bebe / Baby skin condition and what appears video in English: http://www.healthychildren.org/English/ages-stages/baby/bathing-skin-care/Pages/Baby-Skin-Conditions.aspx

12- Comment prendre soin du penis du bebe/ how to care for an Uncircumcised penis:   page in englishhttp://www.healthychildren.org/English/ages-stages/baby/bathing-skin-care/Pages/Care-for-an-Uncircumcised-Penis.aspx

13- Comment calmer les pieds d’une femme enceinte/ how to calm swollen feet during pregnancy . Video in English http://video.about.com/pregnancy/Swollen-Feet-and-Pregnancy.htm

14- Les meilleures positions pour bien allaiter / How to breastfeed easily video in English http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6Bs0X_O8ZhM or http://www.babycenter.com/2_10-tips-for-breastfeeding-success_10326780.bc

15- Des lectures en francais sur l’allaitement:

http://www.infor-allaitement.be/pages/conseils-reponses1.php

http://www.santeallaitementmaternel.com/se_former/comprendre_lactation/comment_ca_marche/dans_le_temps/naissance_premiere_tetee.php

http://www.enceinte.com/article_info/1/grossesse/suivi_de_grossesse/la_preparation_a_l_allaitement.html

16- Un guide produit par L’UNICEF concernant la premiere tetee: video en anglais: http://www.unicef.org.uk/BabyFriendly/Parents/Resources/AudioVideo/Positioning-and-attachment/

17- Comment enrober bebe/ How to swaddle the new born http://www.babycenter.com/2_how-to-swaddle-a-baby_10347122.bc

I hope that those links and videos are interesting and will help each expecting mom and dad!!

Rita Chemaly

new-born-baby how in lebanon men and women can take care of children

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I just got a call from dodo my friend who has been living in Canada.

The law there entitles her to see her children grow, watch their first steps, see how their first tooth grow….

the law there gives a women 50 weeks and for the Paternity 5 week that the dad can choose to take the moment he wants!

plus the dad is entitled for a 2 days for the delivery!!!!!!

and we in Lebanon are struggling to have 70 days for maternity leave!!!!!!!!!!!

Do you know that all moms and dads in Lebanon have to think what to do after 49 days??? do they put their new born in Kindergarden, do they ask their “hametos” “mother in laws” or any relative to watch over, do they bring a Domestic worker to watch for the new born!??!?!

Do you think dear MPs that these solutions are Safe???? is it how you want Lebanese families to raise the future citizens of Lebanon????!!!!

GRRRR!!!!!

We have to act!!!

Rita Chemaly

Canadian maternity leave versus lebanon maternity leave

some sources about Canadian law http://www.labour.gov.on.ca/english/es/pubs/guide/pregnancy.php

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Last Year, the Maternity leave extension project law in Lebanon made some progress in the Parliamentarian commissions only.

But, we ( = Lebanese Citizens) are still waiting for the Vote in the GENERAL ASSEMBLY of the Parliament for the extension of the maternity leave from 49 days to 10 weeks….

I am a pregnant woman, and I think that I will need to rest with my baby , I will need to feed him, will need to sleep at night and not think how to get to work early in the morning, after having a long night feeding, burping, changing….

Do you Know that maternity leave in Lebanon ( the 49 days) we are entitled to, are counted with the days that are public holidays and Sundays, and Saturdays???

Employees  can just benefit from their annual leaves, if they kept some left, the maternity leave as stipulated in the labor law in Lebanon is clearly not sufficient!!!!!

as for Paternity leave, this is something that doesn’t exist!!!! how a dad can feel that his is a dad, and can participate in the education of his child, if he can’t even participate in taking care of his baby at the early stages of his coming to life????!!!!!

We should act, but how??

Just ask and lobby the Members of Parliament in Lebanon ( who reconducted for themselves in a weird way) to DO their Job and to work on changing the legislation!!!!

maternity leave in lebanon 49 days only for women

 

 

Rita Chemaly

 

Previous posts about the same issue:

http://ritachemaly.wordpress.com/2012/10/12/congratulations-lebanese-women-can-now-have-60-days-of-maternity-leave/

 

https://ritachemaly.wordpress.com/2012/09/13/lebanese-mothers-missing-their-babies-an-article-about-maternity-leave-by-c-benoit/

 

http://ritachemaly.files.wordpress.com/2013/06/droits-des-femmes-au-liban-conge-maternite-et-conge-paternite-par-rita-chemaly.jpg

 

http://ritachemaly.wordpress.com/2013/06/13/members-of-parliament-we-want-an-extension-of-the-maternity-leave-in-lebanon-now/

 

http://ritachemaly.wordpress.com/2013/05/22/maternity-leave-in-lebanon-is-in-the-drawer-of-parliament-because-of-political-problems/

 

http://ritachemaly.wordpress.com/2013/03/15/march-21-is-mother-day-but-in-lebanon-women-are-not-treated-fairly-maternity-leave-is-a-must/

http://ritachemaly.files.wordpress.com/2013/03/maternity-leave-in-lebanon-too-short-campaign-rita-chemaly.jpg

 

 

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I am enraged, those 2 days, all what TVs and media are covering are the supposed military attacks USA, France and Great Britain might do against Syria.

And since than, all the messages I am getting are “keep safe” “we will suspend our meetings” “stay home” ….

What??? I know that my post is just for me and wont be read by the BIG guys, but maybe if some of their team members may read it, they will understand, that some people who are “citizens” here in this part of the world are AGAINST any military attack!!! Syria is already living under the bombs, bombing more and letting foreign powers intervene as they did in Irak, Afghanistan, Libya or else, is a huge Mistake. Can they consider the citizens that are living in the region?? can they consider that if it didn’t work in other parts of the world, it won’t work in Syria too?!!!

I am afraid, Yes I am, for the security of those who are still living in Syria, for those who are living like me in Lebanon, and trying to make a living albeit the bombings and explosions we are witnessing!

Dear Big Guys, the Soft politic is in my opinion the solution, the political solution is still needed as it happened in Lebanon in 1989, and after in Doha….

Please dears think about it!! Syria is already a war-torn country and chemical weapons is already been used, don’t “add oil to the fire” and use a military attack, even those who you think needs you for a military attack are not as clean as they should be ! Fundamentalism, extremism, and dictatorship are all for me, simple citizen of this Middle East unacceptable!

Rita Chemaly

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